Why You Get Stuck After Deciding to Change

Why you get stuck after deciding to change is simpler than you think. We have circled around the moment you realise that one income isn’t safe like a hungry shark circles a group of surfers out on their boards. We are fully aware now that we are up shit creek without a paddle. And that in order to make things work … we have to DO something.

Paralysis sets in because the voices around us are so loud, so competitive, so urgent that for a hot minute our 9-5 looks peaceful again.

Every person you come across in your quest tells you their business is the fastest growing, the best paying, the most rewarding. Yet when you sit with the information you have…something doesn’t quite add up. To you it doesn’t look like you can do this business in ‘pockets of time’ or ‘without any tech skills at all’. You can’t even get to the login page for the offer without a degree in IT.

How do you sort the wheat from the chaff? What actually fits into your life?

I believe this is exactly where people get stuck after deciding to change. So stuck that they do nothing at all.

And in that void sits a lot of disappointment and even a touch of desperation. The saddest thing is the next time we get inspired to try, that previous inactivity is stirred up again and the inner voice speaks loudly:

‘You have been there’
‘You can’t do this’
‘You are not the right person’

Around and around we go.

Waiting for the full plan to land in our lap. For the perfect sequence to be presented to us on a silver platter with a sprinkle of glitter. With absolute clarity and steadfast proven outcomes and statistics…and of course, the right product or service. Finally, something we can actually stand behind. We can even recommend this to our closest friends…because the last 10 things we investigated…oh those were not quite the deal.

In waiting for this perfect ‘thing’ we waste so much time and opportunity…

we fuck it up without even being in it.

Why you get stuck after deciding to change in real life

Because if you’re honest, it’s not that you don’t have options.

It’s that none of them feel clean enough.
Simple enough.
Safe enough.

So you hover.

You read.
You compare.
You open another tab like this one might finally be the one that makes sense.

And suddenly, you’re back where you started. The frustrating part is you can see it happening — and still feel stuck.

Not because nothing exists.

But most people don’t realise what’s actually keeping them stuck.

Because nothing feels like it fits into your actual life. That’s exactly why you get stuck after deciding to change.

I wrote more about this shift when I realised why going deeper wasn’t actually making me safer anymore.

And that’s the part most advice completely ignores.

It assumes you have:

• Endless time
• Endless energy
• Endless patience for broken systems

In reality, you don’t need more options.

You need something you can actually step into without rearranging your entire life to make it work.

Something that doesn’t require you to become a different person first.

Something that can sit alongside what you already have…without turning everything upside down.

The truth is, the shift doesn’t come from finding the perfect thing.

It comes from finally being in something.

Even if it’s messy.
Even if it’s not perfect.
Even if you’re not entirely sure what you’re doing yet.

That’s where things start to move.

Not in your head.
In real life.

If you want something that helps you actually start (without overthinking it),
this is where I’d begin:

If you’re already past the “thinking about it” stage and just want to see what this looks like in real life, you can see what I’m doing here. It’s not perfect. It’s not particularly subtle.

But it is simple.
And it works as a first step.

If you’re interested in how people respond to change psychologically, this is a useful read.